In our instinctive attachments, our fear of change, and our wish for certainty and permanence, we may undercut the impermanence which is our greatest strength, our most fundamental identity. Without impermanence, there is no process. The nature of life is change. All hope is based on process . . .
It is taken me somewhat longer to recognize that a diagnosis is simply another form of judgment. Naming a disease has limited usefulness. It does not capture life or even reflect it accurately. Illness, on the other hand, is a process, like life is.
Much in the concept of diagnosis and cure is about fixing, and the narrow-bore focus on fixing people's problems can lead to denial of the power of their process. Years ago, I took full credit when people became well; their recovery was testimony to my skill and knowledge as a physician. I never recognized that without their biological, emotional, and spiritual process which could respond to my interventions, nothing could have changed at all. All the time I thought I was repairing, I was collaborating.”
― Rachel Naomi Remen, Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories that Heal
Preparing to help our sons begin a new year of study and growth, I share only one wish - that all who meet them do so with curiosity and compassion. Let the questions that arise in your meeting serve as living questions. We honor children in our exploration to learn from their presence. There is no greater gift or responsibility.
Be well,
Kathy
From My Bookshelf
“The places in which we are seen and heard are holy places. They remind us of our value as human beings. They give us the strength to go on.”
― Rachel Naomi Remen, Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories that Heal
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